{"id":1984,"date":"2026-04-19T04:03:41","date_gmt":"2026-04-19T04:03:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/?p=1984"},"modified":"2026-04-19T04:03:44","modified_gmt":"2026-04-19T04:03:44","slug":"how-to-recognize-safe-people-after-trauma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/?p=1984","title":{"rendered":"How to Recognize Safe People After Trauma"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>.kb-image1984_0435ac-47.kb-image-is-ratio-size, .kb-image1984_0435ac-47 .kb-image-is-ratio-size{max-width:775px;width:100%;}.wp-block-kadence-column > .kt-inside-inner-col > .kb-image1984_0435ac-47.kb-image-is-ratio-size, .wp-block-kadence-column > .kt-inside-inner-col > .kb-image1984_0435ac-47 .kb-image-is-ratio-size{align-self:unset;}.kb-image1984_0435ac-47 figure{max-width:775px;}.kb-image1984_0435ac-47 .image-is-svg, .kb-image1984_0435ac-47 .image-is-svg img{width:100%;}.kb-image1984_0435ac-47 .kb-image-has-overlay:after{opacity:0.3;}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-image kb-image1984_0435ac-47\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1500\" height=\"1500\" data-src=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/10.png\" alt=\"Woman gently holding a wooden fence gate in warm sunlight, symbolizing personal boundaries, safety, and choosing what to allow into her life (recognize safe people)\" class=\"kb-img wp-image-1986 lazyload\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/10.png 1500w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/10-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/10-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/10-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/10-768x768.png 768w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1500px) 100vw, 1500px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1500px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1500\/1500;\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n<style>.kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 > .kt-row-column-wrap{align-content:start;}:where(.kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 > .kt-row-column-wrap) > .wp-block-kadence-column{justify-content:start;}.kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 > .kt-row-column-wrap{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);row-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);padding-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-bottom:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}.kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 > .kt-row-layout-overlay{opacity:0.30;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}<\/style><div class=\"kb-row-layout-wrap kb-row-layout-id1984_550fac-06 alignnone wp-block-kadence-rowlayout\"><div class=\"kt-row-column-wrap kt-has-1-columns kt-row-layout-equal kt-tab-layout-inherit kt-mobile-layout-row kt-row-valign-top\">\n<style>.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col,.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{border-top-left-radius:0px;border-top-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-left-radius:0px;}.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-sm, 1rem);}.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;}.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col > .aligncenter{width:100%;}.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{opacity:0.3;}.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56{position:relative;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kadence-column1984_16a92f-56 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-column kadence-column1984_16a92f-56\"><div class=\"kt-inside-inner-col\">\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">If you\u2019ve ever struggled with how to recognize safe people, I want you to know that it is very common for a survivor of domestic violence to struggle with discerning whether a person is safe or not. It is important to be able to recognize if a person is safe, because trusting the wrong person can lead to more harm, confusion, or even repeated abuse. Toxic people can rob you of your energy, health and healing. If you want to understand this more deeply, you can read more about it here: <a href=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/?p=1651\" title=\"Unmasking How Toxic Relationships Rob You\">Unmasking How Toxic Relationships Rob You<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Trauma disrupts your ability to trust yourself and others, practice healthy boundaries, and build strong discernment. The good news is that you can learn to recognize red flags, strengthen your boundaries, and begin to trust yourself again.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-1-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-893e1ff9adb849567a977908b72ab404\" style=\"font-size:30px\"><strong>Your Healing Path: See \u2192 Set \u2192 Trust<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<style>.kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 > .kt-row-column-wrap{align-content:start;}:where(.kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 > .kt-row-column-wrap) > .wp-block-kadence-column{justify-content:start;}.kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 > .kt-row-column-wrap{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);row-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);padding-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-bottom:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}.kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 > .kt-row-layout-overlay{opacity:0.30;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}<\/style><div class=\"kb-row-layout-wrap kb-row-layout-id1984_a9e5ea-03 alignnone wp-block-kadence-rowlayout\"><div class=\"kt-row-column-wrap kt-has-1-columns kt-row-layout-equal kt-tab-layout-inherit kt-mobile-layout-row kt-row-valign-top\">\n<style>.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col,.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{border-top-left-radius:0px;border-top-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-left-radius:0px;}.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-sm, 1rem);}.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;}.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col > .aligncenter{width:100%;}.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{opacity:0.3;}.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11{position:relative;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kadence-column1984_82eb15-11 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-column kadence-column1984_82eb15-11\"><div class=\"kt-inside-inner-col\">\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Learning to recognize safe people and build healthy relationships can feel overwhelming. But it can be broken down into three simple steps:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\"><strong>See \u2192<\/strong> recognize red flags and safe traits<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\"><strong>Set \u2192<\/strong> practice healthy boundaries<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\"><strong>Trust \u2192<\/strong> rebuild trust in yourself, with God guiding you<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<style>.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id1984_989d69-c8 .kb-table-of-content-wrap{padding-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-right:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-bottom:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-left:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id1984_989d69-c8 .kb-table-of-contents-title-wrap{padding-top:0px;padding-right:0px;padding-bottom:0px;padding-left:0px;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id1984_989d69-c8 .kb-table-of-contents-title{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;}.kb-table-of-content-nav.kb-table-of-content-id1984_989d69-c8 .kb-table-of-content-wrap .kb-table-of-content-list{font-weight:regular;font-style:normal;margin-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);margin-right:0px;margin-bottom:0px;margin-left:0px;}<\/style>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-88fb3ecd22a99b64082a896ef355d66c\" style=\"font-size:30px\"><strong>Why Survivors Struggle to Identify Safe People<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n<style>.kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d > .kt-row-column-wrap{align-content:start;}:where(.kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d > .kt-row-column-wrap) > .wp-block-kadence-column{justify-content:start;}.kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d > .kt-row-column-wrap{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);row-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);padding-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-bottom:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}.kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d > .kt-row-layout-overlay{opacity:0.30;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}<\/style><div class=\"kb-row-layout-wrap kb-row-layout-id1984_557a09-1d alignnone wp-block-kadence-rowlayout\"><div class=\"kt-row-column-wrap kt-has-1-columns kt-row-layout-equal kt-tab-layout-inherit kt-mobile-layout-row kt-row-valign-top\">\n<style>.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col,.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{border-top-left-radius:0px;border-top-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-left-radius:0px;}.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-sm, 1rem);}.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;}.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col > .aligncenter{width:100%;}.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{opacity:0.3;}.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4{position:relative;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-column kadence-column1984_05a45c-a4\"><div class=\"kt-inside-inner-col\">\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">There are several reasons why you may struggle to identify safe people, many of which you may not even be aware of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Some of these include:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Not being taught what red flags are, or being conditioned to ignore them<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Growing up as a people pleaser<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Learning to ignore your own needs and put others before yourself<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Growing up in an abusive environment where dysfunction felt \u201cnormal\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Having weak or underdeveloped boundaries<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">As a result, people and relationships can feel confusing and difficult to navigate.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-8aa1cacd0058cd137e589c86893d1dd3\" style=\"font-size:30px\"><strong>How to Recognize a Safe Person<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">The good news is that you can learn what safe people are like and what characteristics belong to a healthy individual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>\u2705 Safe People:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Respect your \u201cno\u201d without pressure<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Are consistent (not hot and cold)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Take accountability when they are wrong<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Don\u2019t rush closeness or intimacy<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Make you feel calm, not anxious<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong><strong>\ud83d\udea8<\/strong> Unsafe People (Red Flags):<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Push past your boundaries<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Guilt-trip you<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Are inconsistent<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Make you feel confused or drained<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Weaponize your vulnerability<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">The next time you are around someone you are trying to discern as safe or not, take a moment to tune in to how your body is feeling and reacting. Are you tense and unsettled in their presence, or do you feel peace and at ease? If you would like further support with recognizing safe people, you can download our free <a href=\"https:\/\/drive.google.com\/file\/d\/19QaHEe7UYfgM8F-IuPUzunzG5p6bF_Fu\/view?usp=sharing\" title=\"\"><em>Is<\/em> <em>This a Safe Person<\/em><\/a><em><a href=\"https:\/\/drive.google.com\/file\/d\/19QaHEe7UYfgM8F-IuPUzunzG5p6bF_Fu\/view?usp=sharing\" title=\"\"> <\/a><\/em>checklist and reflections. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Ask the Holy Spirit to help you discern a person and to fine-tune this skill. God wants you in healthy relationships just as much as you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-731f576e30c6e74da40bf302a7c62bc5\" style=\"font-size:30px\"><strong>How to Practice Boundaries<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Boundaries are rules you set for yourself about what you are okay with and what you are not okay with in how others treat you. They are like a fence around your life, helping you decide what you let in and what you keep out to protect your peace and well-being. Your fence is YOURS and you don\u2019t need to feel ashamed or like you are \u201cmean\u201d for opening or closing your fence to others. You are allowed to decide who has access to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Here are examples of what boundaries sound like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\"><em>\u201cI\u2019m not comfortable with that\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\"><em>\u201cI need time to think\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">\u201c<em>No, I can\u2019t do that\u201d<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<style>.kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 > .kt-row-column-wrap{align-content:start;}:where(.kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 > .kt-row-column-wrap) > .wp-block-kadence-column{justify-content:start;}.kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 > .kt-row-column-wrap{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);row-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-md, 2rem);padding-top:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);padding-bottom:var(--global-kb-spacing-sm, 1.5rem);grid-template-columns:repeat(2, minmax(0, 1fr));}.kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 > .kt-row-layout-overlay{opacity:0.30;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:repeat(2, minmax(0, 1fr));}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 > .kt-row-column-wrap{grid-template-columns:minmax(0, 1fr);}}<\/style><div class=\"kb-row-layout-wrap kb-row-layout-id1984_35b7d7-b7 alignnone wp-block-kadence-rowlayout\"><div class=\"kt-row-column-wrap kt-has-2-columns kt-row-layout-equal kt-tab-layout-inherit kt-mobile-layout-row kt-row-valign-top\">\n<style>.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col,.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{border-top-left-radius:0px;border-top-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-left-radius:0px;}.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-sm, 1rem);}.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;}.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col > .aligncenter{width:100%;}.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{opacity:0.3;}.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44{position:relative;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-column kadence-column1984_69cb6d-44\"><div class=\"kt-inside-inner-col\"><style>.kb-image1984_a981c3-a9 .kb-image-has-overlay:after{opacity:0.3;}<\/style>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-kadence-image kb-image1984_a981c3-a9 size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" data-src=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/11-1024x1024.png\" alt=\"Woman calmly speaking and expressing herself to another person, demonstrating healthy communication and setting boundaries in a respectful way\" class=\"kb-img wp-image-1989 lazyload\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/11-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/11-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/11-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/11-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/11.png 1500w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1024px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1024\/1024;\" \/><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<style>.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{display:flex;}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col,.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{border-top-left-radius:0px;border-top-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-right-radius:0px;border-bottom-left-radius:0px;}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{column-gap:var(--global-kb-gap-sm, 1rem);}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col > .aligncenter{width:100%;}.kt-row-column-wrap > .kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{align-self:center;}.kt-inner-column-height-full:not(.kt-has-1-columns) > .wp-block-kadence-column.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{align-self:auto;}.kt-inner-column-height-full:not(.kt-has-1-columns) > .wp-block-kadence-column.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col:before{opacity:0.3;}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{position:relative;}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kt-row-column-wrap > .kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{align-self:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kt-inner-column-height-full:not(.kt-has-1-columns) > .wp-block-kadence-column.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{align-self:auto;}}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kt-inner-column-height-full:not(.kt-has-1-columns) > .wp-block-kadence-column.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 1024px){.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}@media all and (max-width: 767px){.kt-row-column-wrap > .kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{align-self:center;}.kt-inner-column-height-full:not(.kt-has-1-columns) > .wp-block-kadence-column.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43{align-self:auto;}.kt-inner-column-height-full:not(.kt-has-1-columns) > .wp-block-kadence-column.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}.kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43 > .kt-inside-inner-col{flex-direction:column;justify-content:center;}}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-column kadence-column1984_ac4e7f-43\"><div class=\"kt-inside-inner-col\">\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">After you assert your boundary to the person, pay attention to their response as it will tell you a lot about them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">A safe person respects your boundary and will honor it. An unsafe person will be pushy to dismantle that boundary, guilt-trip, ignore the boundary or may even get angry.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>What happens next:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Safe person \u2192 respects it<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Unsafe person \u2192 pushes, guilt-trips, ignores<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Be mindful of your self-talk after stating your boundary. Are you beating yourself up about drawing a line? If you are, you most likely have some false beliefs about yourself and\/or are not used to loving yourself in this manner.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Remember a person\u2019s response to your boundary reveals their safety.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0cbbc1cdf64b54c67f28539f47d07b59\" style=\"font-size:30px\"><strong>How to Rebuild Trust in Yourself<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">After going through trauma, it is very common to struggle with trusting yourself. You may second guess your thoughts, your feelings, and your decisions. This does not mean something is wrong with you. It simply means you may have learned to ignore your instincts in order to survive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">The good news is that you can rebuild trust in yourself, and it starts with small, intentional steps and decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>Start Small:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Begin with simple, everyday choices<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Pay attention to what you need and what you actually want<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Trust is rebuilt in small moments, not big leaps<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>Notice How You Feel Around People:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Do you feel calm or tense?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do you feel safe or on edge?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Do you feel like yourself or like you\u2019re performing?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Your feelings are giving you important information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>Don&#8217;t Override Discomfort:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">\u201cMaybe I\u2019m overreacting\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">\u201cIt\u2019s not that serious\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">\u201cI should just be nice\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Notice when you say things like the phrases above. <strong>Discomfort is not something to silence\u2014it\u2019s something to pay attention to.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>Pause Before Saying Yes<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Give yourself time to think and process. Try saying:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Push past your boundaries<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Guilt-trip you<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Are inconsistent<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Make you feel confused or drained<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Weaponize your vulnerability<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">&nbsp;Pausing creates space for better decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>Reflect After Interactions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Ask yourself:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Did I feel safe or uneasy?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Did I feel respected?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Did I feel drained or at peace?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<style>.kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0.kb-image-is-ratio-size, .kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0 .kb-image-is-ratio-size{max-width:630px;width:100%;}.wp-block-kadence-column > .kt-inside-inner-col > .kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0.kb-image-is-ratio-size, .wp-block-kadence-column > .kt-inside-inner-col > .kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0 .kb-image-is-ratio-size{align-self:unset;}.kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0 figure{max-width:630px;}.kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0 .image-is-svg, .kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0 .image-is-svg img{width:100%;}.kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0 .kb-image-has-overlay:after{opacity:0.3;}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-image kb-image1984_8d3d51-c0\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" data-src=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/13-1024x1024.png\" alt=\"Woman sitting in a cozy space journaling and reflecting on her thoughts, soft sunlight and warm tones creating a calm, introspective atmosphere\" class=\"kb-img wp-image-1987 lazyload\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/13-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/13-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/13-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/13-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/13.png 1500w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1024px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1024\/1024;\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\"><strong>Don\u2019t overthink\u2014just notice patterns.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"font-size:23px\"><strong>Truth to Hold On To<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Your body often recognizes what your mind hasn\u2019t processed yet. Even if you can\u2019t explain it, it is okay to trust what you feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Rebuilding trust in yourself is a process, and it may feel uncomfortable at first. But as you continue to listen to yourself and honor what you feel, it will become easier. You can learn to trust yourself again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0f6f2ecc9d4240378b855707989ee1fc\" style=\"font-size:30px\">What Will try TO stop you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">If you are not familiar or used to implementing boundaries in your life, you may feel uncomfortable at first. You may&nbsp; feel like you are being mean or selfish. People in your life may push back on your boundaries and pressure you to stop using them all together. Remember that change is uncomfortable and creating a new normal takes time and patience with yourself.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Keep pushing through the hard feelings and any pushback from family or friends.The people who benefited from your lack of boundaries may struggle when you start setting them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Boundaries may feel uncomfortable, but they are not wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0a1946b1af2c74a6942f7e205288f680\" style=\"font-size:30px\">how to become a safe person<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">I want to take a moment to teach you how to become a safe person, not just recognize one. Why? Because as you become safer, you begin to recognize safety more clearly. Essentially, you are becoming what you are also looking for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">To become a safer and healthier person, you need to:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Respect other people\u2019s boundaries<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Be consistent<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Listen without judgment<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Take accountability<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Not control or pressure others<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Healthy people attract healthy people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">As you begin to grow in these areas, you will not only recognize safe people more easily, but you will also create safer and more meaningful relationships in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-bd21eff72f41892a836b2d556de12339\" style=\"font-size:30px\">what safe relationships feel like<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">We all want safe relationships in our lives\u2014relationships that build us up and support us, rather than tear us down and wither our self-esteem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">If you have experienced domestic violence, you may feel like you do not know what a safe relationship feels like, because feeling unsafe has been your norm for far too long.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">A safe relationship will bring about feelings such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Peace<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Emotional safety<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Trust<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Openness<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li style=\"font-size:18px\">Mutual respect<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">While an unsafe relationship may make you feel:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Confused<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Anxious<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Like you\u2019re walking on eggshells<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Angry<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Unseen and discarded<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hypervigilant<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">No relationship is perfect, and even healthy relationships will go through seasons where individuals need to address unhealthy behaviors. But a healthy relationship is built on a foundation of love and respect, even through challenges.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">You deserve to experience relationships that feel safe, steady, and rooted in respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5c015d5dbf2e26201fbc163b54300739\" style=\"font-size:30px\">The power of a safe place<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Recently, my son, who is 3, was upset and struggling to express, communicate, and process his feelings. He was holding his emotions in. His face was angry, and he was starting to lash out. I hugged him and gently encouraged him to tell me what was bothering him. He started to cry and fell into my embrace. In that moment, he released and opened up about why he was so distraught.<\/p>\n\n\n<style>.kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43.kb-image-is-ratio-size, .kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43 .kb-image-is-ratio-size{max-width:639px;width:100%;}.wp-block-kadence-column > .kt-inside-inner-col > .kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43.kb-image-is-ratio-size, .wp-block-kadence-column > .kt-inside-inner-col > .kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43 .kb-image-is-ratio-size{align-self:unset;}.kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43 figure{max-width:639px;}.kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43 .image-is-svg, .kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43 .image-is-svg img{width:100%;}.kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43 .kb-image-has-overlay:after{opacity:0.3;}<\/style>\n<div class=\"wp-block-kadence-image kb-image1984_4b1ff8-43\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" data-src=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/12-1024x1024.png\" alt=\"Mother holding and comforting her young child as he cries, creating a safe and nurturing emotional space with warmth and connection\" class=\"kb-img wp-image-1988 lazyload\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/12-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/12-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/12-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/12-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/analahlife.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/12.png 1500w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 1024px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 1024\/1024;\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">In that moment, I realized how powerful a safe person and a safe place, can be. When my son felt safe and supported, it allowed him to let his guard down and open up his heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">A safe person creates space for vulnerability and connection, which we all need, because God created us for community. Above all, God is our number one safe place when we need to release and open up our hearts. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">If you would like to join our safe place and heal in community, you can join our private Facebook group <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/arminarmsurvivors\" title=\"\">here<\/a> (please answer all 3 questions and approve the group rules to be accepted).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">We all need safe places\u2014and God is the safest place we will ever have.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-24a688cb15be4e109e1377f6183c926b\" style=\"font-size:30px\">god is our foundation of safety<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Psalm 91 paints a comforting picture of God as our safe place and refuge:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>\u201cHe who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will remain secure and rest in the shadow of the Almighty\u2026 He is my refuge and my fortress\u2026 And under His wings you will find refuge; His faithfulness is a shield and a wall.\u201d<\/p><cite>Psalm 91:1\u20132, 4<\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">God assures us that He is a secure place of rest, where we are covered under His wings of protection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">The names of God also reveal His safe and secure nature. One of His names, <strong>El Roi<\/strong>, means \u201cThe God Who Sees Me.\u201d The God of the universe sees you fully, inside and out, and desires intimacy with you. He wants to be your safe place and a shoulder to rest on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Another name of God is <strong>Jehovah Shammah<\/strong>, which means \u201cThe Lord Is There.\u201d Our God is consistent, always present, never leaving you stranded or alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">How comforting it is to serve a God who models consistency, safety, and trust. He shows us what safe love looks and feels like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Before you learn to trust others, you can rest in the safety of a God who has always been trustworthy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-theme-palette-11-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-14bb3add726390511edcde6d0ebb795a\" style=\"font-size:30px\">Moving Forward with Confidence<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Learning how to recognize safe people is a process. It requires unlearning what you had to do to survive and learning new ways to protect, honor, and trust yourself again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">You are not broken for struggling with this. You were shaped by your experiences, but you are capable of growing beyond them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">As you begin to practice boundaries, pay attention to how people respond, and become more aware of how you feel, things will start to become clearer. What once felt confusing will begin to make sense.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">You will begin to recognize safe people.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">And just as importantly, you will become one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">Give yourself grace in this process. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but that does not mean you are doing something wrong\u2014it means you are doing something different.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">You deserve relationships that feel safe, steady, and rooted in respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p style=\"font-size:18px\">And through it all, remember that God is your foundation of safety. 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